Five high-risk personalities for babies
In the first few years of a new life, personality bias is -0 worthy of parental attention?
A 3-year-old baby is affected by her genetic qualities, living environment, and the conscious or unconsciousness of her parents. Some personality deviations will appear in the body. If the parents ignore these deviations, these deviations may become the main personality of the child in the future development process.Characteristics; If parents are conscious to correct these deviations, the child’s growth will be healthier and smoother . Personality is biased towards 1 delicate and pitiful sensitive Ge Jiao Jiao, as his name is, hiding behind his mother shyly, tightlyTugging her mother’s corner of her clothing, she peered half her head at the stranger she met for the first time.
Her mother tried to break free of her pull and wanted her to say hello to the stranger, but immediately made her very nervous, and the whole person hid behind her mother.
The helpless mother had to explain “this child is like this, especially timid”, and then turned around and dragged Jiao Jiao in front of her again and again, “Come out, what are you afraid of!
“Just in this process, Jiaojiao cried in a low voice,” Don’t be afraid, be brave “is the mother ‘s earnest hope for Jiaojiao, but it ‘s not Jiaojiao ‘s ownHope it!
However, in many occasions, Jiao Jiao will often and naturally show a kind of nervousness and flinching. This is a personality tendency of her. The typical characteristics shown are: 1.
She showed unusual sensitivity to the external environment, and a slight change in the outside world made her nervous and upset.
Interpersonal skills are relatively poor, and I like to play some games that I am familiar with quietly.
Behaves relatively slowly; emotions are calmer.
Recognized as high and unwilling to express their requirements.
Love reminds that in the face of Jiao Jiao’s timidity and sensitivity, an impatient mother often loses control of herself and loses her temper, but her irritability makes Jiao Jiao more timid and cannot really help Jiao Jiao grow.
Overcoming personality bias is a relatively slow process. In this process, the mother may also need to make new adjustments from the following aspects: 1.
In the process of contacting and adapting to the new environment, Jiao Jiao needs her mother to accompany her. On the basis that Jiao Jiao gradually became familiar, her mother consciously allowed Jiao Jiao to express herself.
For example, Jiaojiao is going to enter kindergarten, and mother can take Jiaojiao to play in kindergarten in advance; after entering kindergarten, mother can accompany Jiaojiao to play in the class for a while before leaving, so that Jiaojiao is gradually familiar with the new environment.the process of.
The task of setting up the “recent development zone” challenges and stimulates Jiaojiao’s inner ability.
The so-called recent development zone refers to a level of development that Jiaojiao has not reached at present but can achieve through its own efforts.
For example, Jiaojiao is currently unwilling to say hello to strangers, and her mother can guide Jiaojiao to take her mother’s hand and turn to the front.
The character is biased towards a bold and persuasive adventure. He suddenly saw a glass product placed in the bookshelf and was tired of toys. He immediately asked his mother, “I want to play, I want that tiger, I want .”My mother immediately opened Qiangqiang’s cartoon on TV and wanted to shift Qiangqiang’s attention, but in this short process, she found that Qiangqiang had climbed to the back of the sofa, and Qiangqiang was thinking obliquely.Stand up . The horrible consequences made mothers have to hand the glass tiger to Qiangqiang, but after a while, the mother heard the sound of Qiangqiang pushing the glass tiger forward . Qiangqiang always makes her mother nervousIt ‘s tight. He may touch the switch of the water dispenser for a while. He may climb the window sill a while . Although his strong forehead has been thrown out of the big scar and his butt has been taught by his father many times, he still keepsGet in trouble and do some very dangerous things . In fact, strong is a risk-taking personality. The typical characteristics of this personality are: 1.
Always in an emotional state of excitement, habitually touching things, kicking the surrounding objects with his feet.
Act according to your own ideas, never consider the consequences, and remember the lessons you have learned before.
Likes to attack, invades others, and has strong rebellious psychology.
A reminder of love: Qiangqiang’s risky personality biases both his father and mother. He and his father have taught Qiangqiang many times with a slap, and the mother has been trying to lure him with a “good baby”.changes happened.
then what should we do?
Create a quiet and peaceful family atmosphere, reduce or eliminate some sources of violent stimuli, and enable Qiangqiang to engage in reading or handmade activities in a peaceful and quiet atmosphere, thereby reducing the possibility of his risky behavior.
Set rules for strong behaviors, and resolutely constrain strong requirements and behaviors in accordance with this rule.
For example, for some decorative items, they can only be viewed but not used as toys. Under this rule, there is no consensus or condition exchange between mother and Qiangqiang.
No matter what the strong and strong demands and the adventurous behaviors, the mother cannot allow him to take the item.
Only in this way can Qiangqiang enhance his risk-taking behavior and not necessarily satisfy himself and learn to give up.
For the strong risk-taking personality, the mother can first control his impulsive emotions from the outside, and then gradually let him learn to control himself. Instead of triggering his negative emotions because of his strong behavior, he can cause further negative hints to his strength. Personality biased towards 3, especially the “good” indifferent mother who has always been very fortunate, her own family is particularly good.
Eating and dressing is also at the mercy of the adults; guests come and go, and Mum goes out, but Mengmeng doesn’t care . But when Mengmeng enters the nursery, he shows a little alienation from other children.Children’s bullying will not fight back; they do n’t predict the teacher ‘s praise, and they do n’t seem to care about the teacher ‘s criticism . Meng Meng ‘s obedience makes her mother relax her attention, which makes Meng Meng have more time to be alone.Music, while little attention is paid to changes in the external environment, and develop a personality tendency that is indifferent and insensitive to the external environment.
The typical characteristics of this personality tendency are: 1.
He rarely shows an ordinary child’s interest in the external environment. No matter what happens, whether he is happy or not, he has no obvious response.
More docile, but behavior and life are very regular.
Rarely can you express your emotional needs clearly.
No one showing a fixed intimate attachment.
A reminder of love: In a society where the emotional intelligence of the participants is involved, Mongolia’s indifference and insensitivity may affect her future development, so it is important for the mother to take early, and early measures can be taken to help Mongolia to change this indifferent personality biasSpecifically, the measures a mother can take are: 1.
To reduce the time when Mengmeng is alone or with Mengmeng alone, parents should spend more time with Mengmeng, communicate more with Mengmeng, and less criticize Mengmeng, help Mengmeng open his heart, and express his emotional needs safely.
Mom and Dad can create more opportunities to help Mengmeng make some friends, so that Mengmeng can learn interpersonal communication, learn to actively express themselves, experience the fun of the game, and understand the feelings of others in the process of playing with others.
Moms and dads can take them out for a while, and stimulate their interest in the external environment through changes in the environment and the emergence of novel stimuli.
Mom and Dad can guide Meng Meng to replace small animals, so as to inspire Meng Meng’s love and responsibility.
Personality is biased toward 4 impulsive and tired people. A child that kindergarten teachers like and have headaches. He likes him because of his intelligence and cuteness, and “headaches” to him because of his “irregular discipline”.
He always likes to move around, not to play tricks on other children, or to suddenly push the blocks he just put together to the ground, or he can walk around in the class, but ca n’t sit quietlymeeting.
Of course, there is something wrong with describing him this way, because Weiwei can sit quietly for half an hour before his favorite cartoon, but other than that, it seems difficult to find other “magic” that can make Weiwei sit quietly.For a while . Although Weiwei was able to “sit down” in front of his favorite cartoon, but he “sit up and down” most of the time and occasions, which shows that he is a child with a hyperactive height and he has a certain impulse.The typical characteristics of personality bias and category bias are: 1.
There are many things I like to do, but it is difficult to focus energy on certain things, and my favorite things are only three minutes hot.
Entropy is plentiful and behavior is hyperactive, but sometimes I can occasionally focus on and study things, although the time is very short.
Reminder: With regard to Wei Wei’s personality deviation, mothers can pay attention to the following aspects when helping Wei Wei: 1.
Starting from the environment, reducing the strange and diverse stimuli and temptations in the environment, so that Weiwei can engage in purposeful activities in a familiar environment more naturally and quietly.
Set goals and develop patience.
For example, Wei Wei ‘s step-by-step ability expansion training is given different levels of rewards depending on how long Wei Wei persists during the activity.
Parents should pay more attention to the process of towering activities, and reduce the attention to the results of towering activities, and build towering internal interest in activities, so that the parents’ external control of towering activities can be transformed into towering internal constraints on activities.
Personality is biased towards 5 stubborn stubborn stubborn children. Although a person is small, he has a strong temper. Once he recognizes something, he will persist in the end.
The mother promised to take Lele to the zoo on the weekend. On the weekend, it was rainy, so the mother cancelled the plan.
But Lele insisted and kept crying, “I’m going to the zoo.
The zoo . “Lele’s persistent behavior reflected his stubborn personality bias. The typical characteristics of this personality bias are: 1.
On some things that involve Lele himself, if his parents ask for his opinion, whether he understands it or not, he will issue his own requirements and opinions.
Willfulness and repeated insistence on his opinions; scolding has no obvious effect on him.
Love reminds this waywardness of Lele that parents should pay attention to the following aspects in the process of handling: 1.
Focus on your child’s inner real needs.
When a child insists on his unreasonable demands, perhaps his purpose is to attract parents’ attention.
When a child is capricious, parents should not use their own “capriciousness” to fight the capriciousness of the child.
When necessary, it may be appropriate to “concession”, first of all to satisfy the child’s heart, and then educate him to bear the consequences of his own behavior, to avoid similar behavior from happening again.
Parents can also inspire children in daily life to learn to solve problems from multiple perspectives, increase the way children think and solve problems.